Effective communication promotes healthy and lasting relationships, but it sure can be difficult at times. When two individuals commence in sharing information there are so many variables that must be taken into consideration. For the purpose of this word vomit, I’m going to focus on just one and that is the state the two people are in. State is referred to as our current emotional status, or how we are feeling at any given moment. How does this translate into communication? Communication is the means of sending or receiving information. Our state controls how we send and receive that information. One must not only consider their own state, but also the state of the other or the breakdown of communication will occur. I try to ask a simple question in my head when I’m speaking to people. What else could it mean? If their state is not in a good place and their words reflect that, isn’t it possible that their harsh words could have a different meaning? I’m not excusing the behavior or the words in and of themselves, I am merely considering where the words are coming from. Perhaps the words are coming from a place of hurt, but come out as anger. I could give the meaning anger and be defensive, or I could address the root cause and assign it love. The meaning I give it will steer the direction of the conversation. Whatever we focus on we feel. If I focus on the anger I give anger. If I focus on the hurt, I give love.
Quality of life is a direct reflection of the quality of the communication we have with it. Communicate lovingly and compassionately with yourself and others.
The Wandering-Mind 